Can we speak our mind safely?

Crawford Place, Newbury      15 June 2010      12:50 AM      Tuesday

Harry, you're going to have to try and find a way of not expressing every feeling that you have, every moment that you have them !

This is such a common problem. And it just so often happens with me as well. Even a witty carefree attitude doesn't help to impress and appease the people you just have had hurt. And that's when true friends like Sally need to come out and explain to you the way to handle some of the most delicate and intricate situations in your life. Situations which can easily break apart rock-solid relationships, eternal bonds and impregnable trust, which took ages to build up. And it all happens because of one small mistake - you spoke your mind and you were pretty adamant about your thoughts and your views. Plus you just didn't anticipate the repercussions of your fit of pique,  you just din't perceive it to be so destructive to shake your whole social world. Until someone comes in at the very right time and arbitrate !

Most of the times, I fail to control myself under these sort of situations. I love to speak my mind as freely and as frankly as i possibly can. I believe in self defined principles based on my experience with life and on experiences of tens of people who have impacted my life in one way or another. Quite a few years back, I read somewhere to listen to your own instincts and to follow your heartstrings, always and ever ! If you truly believe in yourself and your principles, you've always got to back them up. No matter what situation you are in, or what audience you are in ! Today, your audience may not believe in you, but don't lose hope. Today, few of your friends may not support you, but don't ever lose courage. Well defined principles and right focus will always have to win one day ! They always have had !!! And I presume that's the prime reason why i struggle to use my mind when my inner beliefs don't allow me to accept any objectionable conformance. Irving Wallace has rightly said: 

To be one's self, and unafraid whether right or wrong, is more admirable than the easy cowardice of surrender to conformity.

I agree there may be many questions raised on the way how you express your opinions about something. No one wants to fight straightway, and it all starts with a light banter, which eventually establishes into a heated argument and finally into a war of unpleasant and annoying words because each is equally obsessive about their own principles or arguments! What's so important here to understand is that people fail to realize that "what goes around, always comes around" ! If you support fallacious arguments today, you are bound to be entrapped one day in the very same arguments. And probably you won't feel too great about it then !  

So, i wonder why diplomacy is just so popular these days ! Why people have to be so submissive and so sycophantic to just be inline with the majority or the powerful, even if that means to compromise hard with their only truly earned asset of their lives - Self Respect !!! Why can't they just be true to themselves. Why can't they figure out the courage to speak their mind in front of everyone so as to establish the reign of morality and kill the seeds of dishonest authority. Why do they not understand that the person they are trying to flatter unscrupulously today will eventually be kicking their as* sooner or later some day ! Why can't one just be one's own SELF !

Ta

Gaurav Gupta